The (Sober) Life of the Party

I recently posted a tweet by Chance the Rapper on my Instagram (reposted from Spiritual Gangster) that not only hit home for me, but with followers, and some of my friends too. There seems to be a constant pressure to be “the life of the party” or “the drunk girl dancing on a table”…unsuitable surfaces if you will (shout out to sorority sisters). I’ve learned that it’s not only possible, but OKAY to have fun without food and alcohol – either by being the “odd girl out” at a party or by choosing to have fun a different way.

To be completely honest, I haven’t mastered this yet.

To be completely, completely honest, I’m in Santa Fe for a wedding, and pondering 1. how / when I will indulge, 2. how I can still “have fun”, 3. how I will not be a “Debbie Downer”

Just wanted to level the playing field. Gotta keep it real, ya know?

HOWEVER, I will say that I have made some serious strides in the last few years. I used to be baffled by weekends without drinking. Brunch is what you do in DC (between museums and monuments and rooftop bars). When I started at my gym, a coach told me to find other things to do. I realized that hanging with friends was always surrounded by drinking or eating. Eventually, I started to take long walks in beautiful DC with friends, try a new museum, or check out a hiking spot. That slowly transitioned into me being able to go to happy hours and brunches and make a game time decision about what I wanted to do. Now, that’s not to say that I don’t drink or indulge (#prosecco #chocolate), I just pick and choose when I want to consume it, and how much.

What I’ve learned is…if I don’t groan about it (which I often still do) 1. I still have fun, and 2. most people don’t know or care what I’m doing (apparently the world doesn’t revolve around me always???)

PRO TIP: Sip on club soda (+ lime, lemon, orange, etc.) or nurse a drink during the night. Get your dance on, be the jokester, hold court at the end of the table…just continue to BE YOURSELF.

I hope this helps anyone trying to live his or here #bestlife while striving to reach goals! Just know you’re not alone, it’s possible to have fun soberly, and if you don’t make a big deal about it, you’re most likely golden. And if people have a problem with it, share the Chance the Rapper quote (that’s both facetious and not).

Additionally, check out the wellness trends of 2017 from one of my favorite sites, Well + Good (specifically #9 and #13).

XOXO,

Brynn

Navigate (v.)

The word “navigate” has a variety of meanings:

  • to travel over, through, or on (water, air, or land) in a boat, aircraft, etc.
  • to plan and direct the course of a vessel or vehicle
  • to make sequential progress through something

…to name a few. Each of these pertains to my current lifestyle.

  • to travel over, through, or on (water, air, or land) in a boat, aircraft, etc.

Well, this one is obvious. On any given day, I’m on a plane, train, or automobile – literally navigating my way through airports, cities, and countries – whether for business or for leisure.

  • to plan and direct the course of a vessel or vehicle

I am constantly planning (and re-planning) and determining my next course of action. Where do I want to be in five years? How do I want to look? How do I want to feel? I am always working to figure out what I want, and looking for ways to get myself to that point. My to-do lists, planners, Pinterest boards, and podcast / Instagram choices, etc. are ways for me to help plan the next month / year / five years / rest of my life. #controlfreak

  • to make sequential progress through something

I’ve been on a journey to weight loss for 15+ years. I’ve been on a journey to optimal health for the last three or so. The most progress I’ve made physically has happened in the last two. The most progress I’ve made mentally, has been just over one…and it’s the one of which I’m most proud. I’ve come a loooong way from the insecure, self-deprecating, unhealthy girl. I’ve made progress over the course of  this 15+ year journey, and am hoping for more.